who's in charge here?

man... I want to be a calm, understanding, "the-glass-is-half-full" type of person, but I'm unsuccessful. Little things slowly creep under my skin and then a day or two later I'm pissed off. "Pissed" is a good word here.

My mom and my mother-in-law help us IMMENSELY. They babysit for free while I work.

That's awesome. I appreciate it and I love that my kid will have a relationship with her grandparents—something that I never had.

But they're not raising her.

They watch her usually like 4-8 hours a WEEK in between from when I leave to go bartend and Vaz get's home from work...

When I freelance a day gig... it's 2 and a half days each week, to each grandma.

That's a lot of time - but they're not her caretakers.

My mom said to me the other day "your father wants me to start potty training her." I didn't have a witty quip to reply at the time. I don't think I paid much attention, I sort of glossed over the statement. At the time, it wasn't a big deal, but it's been bothering me. Mainly because it was a statement.

My mom didn't ask me about it. It wasn't "Your father and I were talking and we're wondering are you introducing the potty to her? Do you want me to try when she's with me?"

It was "your father wants me to start potty training her."

Am I wrong for being annoyed?